Do you ever wake-up to the smell of your mom making breakfast?
Do you wake up to the sound of your parents arguing?
I hate when my parents argue, and I'm sure most of you would agree (well not MY parents, your parents.) When my parents argue, it's usually minor, but sometimes it's worse. It's a boxing-match with words, instead of fists. I usually go outside, or in my room, or even start listening to music when they argue, but I just can't get the fact out of my head that I know they're fighting.
My mom's body is full of yeast, this is the root of my parents argument. It's always, "When I drop dead, you'll all be sorry!" or, "This is bull, I need . . . blood work!" and so on and so forth. This stresses me out so much because this happens almost daily. It's always, "I don't feel good!" or, "I have no energy." and my dad does the bio-feedback on her, gives her vitamins, and does the holistic route. But, as I've learned, it doesn't always work. I don't think that my parents are even aware that this does affect me, but it does . . . a lot.
They've got their good days, and then they have their bad days. When my mom has a good day, my dad has a bad day. When my dad has a good day, my mom has a bad day. It's ridiculous, to say the least. And then you have me. I'm in the middle. I never have a great day nor a bad day - so I suppose I always have a mediocre day. Which I think is good, that way I'm never too sad or too (annoyingly) happy.
We were supposed to go on a cruise this summer for my mom's 50th birthday. We changed so many ships, dates, and reservations that we just gave up on it all. Almost every night they would argue about it. Needless to say, we canceled all of our cruise reservations. I was slightly devastated, because this was my mom's 50th, I repeat, 50th birthday. I wanted it to be so special, and things didn't go as planned. And to make matters even better - I was being yelled at because I wanted her birthday to be special! You can just imagine the words I was mumbling.
So, I bet you all are wondering why I've only been saying my mom argues more than my dad. And, to tell you the truth, I don't know why. My dad is so much more different than my mom that it's unbelievable. My dad is a great, loving, caring, supportive person who likes to get out of the house and do stuff. And so does my mom-on good days. But, I also don't want to 'bash' my mom because, after all, she did give me life. And I do love my mom and dad equally, but sometimes she just gets on my nerves.
Maybe your parents don't argue often, they just keep it bottled-up until the big blow-out, where no one in your house will say anything for days at a time. You just wish they would 'kiss and make-up', but rarely does that happen. You feel so stressed out at everything, anything, anyone! You go for a walk and it's pretty peaceful, right? Yes, it is, until you remember what you're going home to: silence, anger, stress, YAY!
How To Deal With Your Parents Arguments:
- Never pick sides, that will just fuel the fire between your parents.
- If your parents arguments gets too intense for your ears, go outside, listen to music, watch television, or even go to a friends house for a little while.
- Try to talk to your mom and/or dad that it bothers you. And ask them, in the nicest way possible, to just talk about it. Calmly talk about what they're arguing about.
- Do not get involved in the argument.
I hope this article will help some of you with your parents argument. Also, I did not/do not mean to offend anyone who has lost one or both of their parents. The same advice can apply to your guardian(s).
Until next week . . .